SIX THINGS YOU SHOULD REMEMBER WHILE SETTING YOUR DESTINY’S GOALS
Helen Keller was a blind women, but she challenged her handicap and became a successful poet and artist. One day, Helen was asked if there is anything worse than being blind. She replied, “Yes. The most pathetic person in the world is someone who has sight, but no goal.’ There are lots of parts and sub-parts to put together when you begin to plan your success, but a few things are foundational. Goal setting is one of those foundational things.
Have you a great purpose for your life? Then you have to set goals to reach that purpose. If your purpose can be considered to be a ladder your goals are the rungs of the ladder. You must set goals that lead to you vision. These goals give you a reason to get up from bed each morning
As you set your goals, keep the following in mind:
1- Build your goals around your strengths
Although you can base your goals on anything you want, your chances of success are greater if, first, you base them on your strengths and second, on the current opportunities in your field. Your goals should be yours; that is in the limits of your capacity. You should not allow someone’s wishes to influence your goals; their accomplishments should be fully depending only on you. Why? Because if your goals are not yours you will not have the motivation or the desire to see them accomplished. You will easily be overtaken by discouragement and frustration if they arrive. To find out your strengths do some self-research such as a personal SWOT; Your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats.
• Strengths are the things you are good at and enjoy doing. Strengths-based goals provide their own Motivation.
• Weaknesses are the things that you have to do, but either dislike doing or make slow progress in.
• Opportunities are the external circumstances you expect to arise or can create which will aid you in moving towards your vision. Don’t base your goals on what you have or what you have done but on what you want and where you ultimately want to go to. The reality is that whatever you are looking for is at the same time looking for you.
• Threats are those external circumstances that are unlikely to help you and may set you back.
While we must keep an eye on weaknesses and threats, our goals should be built around strengths and opportunities.
2- Set your goals as big as you can
One of the factors that restrict the realization of our full potential is the belief that we shouldn’t go for big goals. Those who realize big goals are prove that we can always achieve far more than we think. David Schwartz shows in his book The Magic of Thinking Big that “Big goals attract big resources like a magnet.” Aim to make them challenging; out of reach, but not out of sight. Big thoughts send out an energy that attracts complementary thoughts from people who can help us achieve what we want.
3- Express your goals in terms of what you want
It is important to express your goals in the right way. Never express your goal in terms of what you don’t want; always in terms of what you do want. For example don’t say ‘I don’t want to be a bad husband anymore” instead say “I want to be a better husband from now on”. Express your goals in performance terms not reward terms. Express your goals in terms of how others benefit. Express your goals according to the principles which matter
4- Make them all round
While focusing on goals is a sure way to move towards them, focusing on some goals at the cost of neglecting others is a way to achieve hollow victories. It is like the man who worked so hard to provide for his family that he neglected them in the process and ended up losing them from his life. When we manage to harmonize or align goals in one area with those in another, we find that motivating forces in one area actually help those in other areas at the same time. Set work goals. These are goals that you want to reach in work. Set social goals. These refer to the group you want to join to fulfill your destiny? Physical goals—what state will your body be in next year at this time? Mental goals: How will you develop your mind? Spiritual goals: what aspect of your spiritual life will you develop? Setting goals with equal proportional balance is the key so that you do not steal from one part of your life to fulfill another.
5- Express them in behavioral terms
When we set goals for ourselves, they should be expressed in behavioral terms, rather than in terms of status, rewards or position. That’s because behavior is something within our power, while status, rewards and position are not. Formulating goals in behavioral terms also means we present a strong positive image of ourselves to our brains. The brain, not knowing the difference between a real or imagined experience, then seeks to act in accordance with the presented image.
6- Don’t be afraid to modify it if need be
Life and circumstances are constantly changing also change with them. If you find that the plan you have is not working, change it or modify it. Don’t be afraid to make changes in your plans as you progress towards achieving your vision. You will change your goals often, continuously, and that is all right, too! You are simply writing down what your desires are today. Have fun in setting and achieving your goals. Also have fun in changing them. Surely, as you upgrade your information and knowledge, you will change your perception of what pleases you.
If you fail to plan you are planning to fail. The most important thing about having goals is to have one. Losers let it happen, winners make it happen. By setting goals you are making the things of your life to happen.
GOD BLESS YOU!
The Power of Positive Thinking
Dr. Norman Vincent Peale