HOW FAR ARE YOUR GOALS FREE FROM THE 8 FOLLOWING MISTAKES?Goal-setting is very important and we cannot succeed in our lives without it. Here comes the fourth absolute step of destiny fulfillment: SET GOALS.
What are Goals? They are small objectives or steps that will culminate in your purpose. Goals are your game plan for fulfilling your vision. They are the tools you can use to go from where you are right now to where you want to be. For instance to write a book you write at least a page of it every day, a page will not make the whole book but when all the pages are written, they will lead to the purpose which is the book. So goals are the pages that make up the book which is your vision. Goals are so important because they can stimulate you if properly set. Set goals motivate like magic.
Goals are important at least for six reasons.
- Goal setting takes your dreams and turns them into reality
Having a purpose is exceptionally exciting but the simple fact alone is not sufficient. By setting goals, you plan how to materialize your wish.
- They keep you focused
When you learn how to each day set specific goals, you become more focused on the things that really make a difference.
- They give you enthusiasm
When we have a worthy aim to live for you are automatically motivated.
- They give you clarity in decision-making.
Your mind is like a workstation it needs directions to operate competently. And those directives cannot be imprecise and vague; they must be clear and precise. Set goals send precised information to your brain.
- They help you stay organized
They serve as instructions to your brain. When you set goals and constantly think of them, your subconscious mind will act as an automatic pilot to guide you towards their achievement. They help you judge your productivity and effectiveness
Without goals you have no targets, and without targets you have nothing to measure how you’re doing. Your goals help you evaluate your productivity and effectiveness.
Goal-setting is so vital, J.C Penny a famous rich man once said: “give me a stock clerk with a goal and I will give you a man, Give me a man without a goal and I will give you a stock clerk.” Goals are so important for any thing we want to achieve in life but many people hastily set them and in the process many mistakes. Here are:
- Don’t fail to list the goal category. Many people fail to list the category of the goal they are setting. There are several categories of goals; spiritual life physical life, intellectual life moral life, familial life, career, relationship etc… It will be helpful for you to list from which category you are setting a goal.
- Don’t fail to put your goal in writing. While writing, make it specific. For instance, to say you want to be happily married is more of a wish than a goal. For a goal to be effective you must describe in detail what it will look like. Say I want to become a better husband by being more affectionate to my wife. Write your goals down, to have a way to measure your progress. Eric Garner teaches that, “Written goals have a way of transforming wishes into wants, can’ts into cans, dreams into plans and plans into reality”.
- Don’t fail to give it a deadline. Deadlines often scare people away from goal-setting. But setting a deadline does provide a target. Deadlines don’t only force us to work had, they also serve as a motivator in the sense that each time you meet a deadline it reinforces your sense of fulfilling your goals, creates the momentum and sense of success in your life and gives you satisfaction. Set goals for every day, every week, every month, and every year.
- Don’t fail to identify potential success blockers. You will meet obstacles therefore you should better expect them! Anything worthwhile in Life will have a price to pay and hurdles to conquer. Successful goal setters identify those potential problems first before they encounter them. This puts them in a much stronger position to overcome.
- Don’t fail to write out a list of skills you will need to develop to achieve the goal. If you set a goal to be more affectionate then you might have to develop some listening and talking skills. It probably would help. If you want to write a book then you may need to develop grammatical skills. This step forces you to consider ahead of time the tools you will need to see your dreams come true. Make a list.
- Don’t fail to identify the resources you will need. Chances are, you will require the assistance of certain people to see your dreams fulfilled. Who are they? How should you approach them? What should you ask them? Is there an association or fellowship to join? Some goals require the assistance of professional helpers.
- Don’t fail to list what benefits this goal will bring. Every goal has a price and requires a certain degree of sacrifice and hard work but also contains some great gains. When you list the benefits of the goal, you stay motivated to stick with it.
- Don’t fail to build in accountability factors. Have you tried to achieve a certain goal only to fail time and time again? You feel the goal is worthwhile and you would like to see it through, but you just can’t break through. To achieve such goals, make yourself accountable to someone you respect who can call you to order from time to time
- Build your goals around your strengths
Although you can base your goals on anything you want, your chances of success are greater if, first, you base them on your strengths and second, on the current opportunities in your field. Your goals should be yours; that is in the limits of your capacity. You should not allow someone’s wishes to influence your goals; their accomplishments should be fully depending only on you. Why? Because if your goals are not yours you will not have the motivation or the desire to see them accomplished. You will easily be overtaken by discouragement and frustration if they arrive. To find out your strengths do some self-research such as a personal SWOT.
- Set your goals as big as you can
One of the factors that restrict the realization of our full potential is the belief that we shouldn’t go for big goals. Those who realize big goals are prove that we can always achieve far more than we think. David Schwartz shows in his book The Magic of Thinking Big that “Big goals attract big resources like a magnet.” Aim to make them challenging; out of reach, but not out of sight. Big thoughts send out an energy that attracts complementary thoughts from people who can help us achieve what we want.
- Express your goals in terms of what you want
It is important to express your goals in the right way. Never express your goal in terms of what you don’t want; always in terms of what you do want. For example don’t say ‘I don’t want to be a bad husband anymore” instead say “I want to be a better husband from now on”. Express your goals in performance terms not reward terms. Express your goals in terms of how others benefit. Express your goals according to the principles which matter.
- Make them all round
While focusing on goals is a sure way to move towards them, focusing on some goals at the cost of neglecting others is a way to achieve hollow victories. It is like the man who worked so hard to provide for his family that he neglected them in the process and ended up losing them from his life. When we manage to harmonize or align goals in one area with those in another, we find that motivating forces in one area actually help those in other areas at the same time. Set work goals. These are goals that you want to reach in work. Set social goals. These refer to the group you want to join to fulfill your destiny? Physical goals—what state will your body be in next year at this time? Mental goals: How will you develop your mind? Spiritual goals: what aspect of your spiritual life will you develop? Setting goals with equal proportional balance is the key so that you do not steal from one part of your life to fulfill another.
- Express them in behavioral terms
When we set goals for ourselves, they should be expressed in behavioral terms, rather than in terms of status, rewards or position. That’s because behavior is something within our power, while status, rewards and position are not. Formulating goals in behavioral terms also means we present a strong positive image of ourselves to our brains. The brain, not knowing the difference between a real or imagined experience, then seeks to act in accordance with the presented image.
- Don’t be afraid to modify it if need be
Life and circumstances are constantly changing also change with them. If you find that the plan you have is not working, change it or modify it. Don’t be afraid to make changes in your plans as you progress towards achieving your vision. You will change your goals often, continuously, and that is all right, too! You are simply writing down what your desires are today. Have fun in setting and achieving your goals. Also have fun in changing them. Surely, as you upgrade your information and knowledge, you will change your perception of what pleases you.
GOD BLESS YOU